I really liked this picture when I saw it on Facebook the other day as it really summed up a huge aspect of Love for me.
We grow up being fed the lie that love is a feeling, or that it relies exclusively on feelings. Once the feeling has gone then love is no more and it’s time to move on.
But fortunately, and especially (although maybe not exclusively) if we have an encounter with Jesus, we learn that Love is so much more than that. Love is a series of choices made regardless of feeling, that when made and lived out well, more often than not have the feeling along as well for the accompanying ride.
Caring for each other even when you’re angry. That is so powerful.
And in reality [especially, I think, in the reality of marriage, if you have that] it competes strongly against pride and needing to be right and getting some form of revenge [although you will never call it that and so you disguise it discreetly, or try to, as passive aggressive sulky woe-is-me behaviour, doors closed a little more harder than you would normally and well delivered sighs] and wanting to lash out and possibly a bunch of other viciously ugly things as well.
This cartoon reminds me of the last few words of 1 Corinthians 13, commonly known as the Love chapter, and at the end of a list of incredible choice-related aspects of Love, the writer finishes off with:
‘It [Love] always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.’ [verse 7]
That is this picture:
# Protecting: Looking out for your person even though you are angry
# Trusting: That the reason you are angry is because of something much less important than the fact that your person loves you.
# Hoping: That this too will pass, and hopefully fairly quickly, so you can hurry back to the feeling-accompanied part of Love.
# Persevering: Holding fast to the commitment you made to your person before God, family and friends. To really Love them well.